Disclaimer: This interview includes in-depth discussions of serious mental health topics, such as personality disorders and other highly sensitive subjects. These topics may be distressing or triggering for some listeners.

In this episode of SHE MD, Mary Alice Haney and Dr. Thaïs Aliabadi sit down with Dr. Suzanne Wallach, a leading expert in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), to unpack what every woman should understand about emotional regulation, trauma, and personality disorders. From the difference between borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, and narcissism to the real signs of emotional dysregulation, this conversation brings clarity to topics that are often misunderstood and misdiagnosed.

Dr. Wallach breaks down how trauma shapes behavior, why narcissists rarely seek help, and what narcissistic abuse and gaslighting actually look like in relationships. The conversation also explores how to recognize unhealthy patterns, why you should never stay in a relationship where you’re being disrespected, and how emotional overwhelm impacts your ability to think clearly or problem-solve in the moment.

You’ll also learn practical, science-backed tools you can start using immediately, including DBT techniques like the TIPP method for panic attacks and emotional distress. The episode expands into parenting and generational trauma, offering insight on how to raise emotionally healthy children through validation, boundaries, and consistency. If you’ve ever struggled with your emotions, relationships, or mental health, this episode is filled with actionable strategies to help you regain control and build a more stable, grounded life.

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What You’ll Learn

• The difference between borderline personality disorder (BPD), bipolar disorder, and narcissism
• Why narcissists rarely self-diagnose, and why they’re difficult to treat
• Signs you may be experiencing emotional dysregulation or unresolved trauma
• What narcissistic abuse and gaslighting actually look like
• Why BPD is often misdiagnosed as bipolar disorder
• The role of childhood traum