In this episode of the Therapy Works podcast, Olivia shares the harrowing experience of her husband being arrested in 2014 for downloading and sharing paedophilic images of children. She discusses the subsequent impact on her life and her four children, detailing the years of coercive control, emotional abuse, and manipulation she endured during her marriage. Olivia reflects on the therapy and support she received that helped her come to terms with the situation, reclaim her sense of self, and start to rebuild her life. Despite the trauma, Olivia speaks of her path to freedom, the crucial role of her support system, and how she managed to rebuild a life filled with joy and self-discovery.

00:12 The Day Everything Changed

01:22 Living Under Coercive Control

05:10 Realisations Through Therapy

10:19 The Arrest and Its Aftermath

14:14 Struggles with Shame and Guilt

31:30 Support Systems and Healing

37:46 Reflections and Moving Forward



Support Links & Further Resources



Understanding the Vagus Nerve – Learn more via the Polyvagal Institute



Carolyn Spring – Resources on trauma and recovery: carolynspring.com



Women’s Aid – Support for those affected by domestic abuse: womensaid.org.uk



Support for Families & Friends of Perpetrators – Guidance via the Survivors’ Network: Read here



Dr. Gwen Adshead: Reith Lecture – Listen on the BBC: Episode link



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